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Here you will find articles that help you think, help you make changes to your behaviour and attitude and even help you know why someone reacts as they do and potentially what you can do to change it.
Years ago I remember reading T Harv Eker’s book Secrets of The Millionaire Mind, where within the pages were a list of beliefs that millionaires have that non millionaires don’t have, hence why they were not millionaires, and this intrigued me.
Assumptions are conclusions we come to, that we automatically believe are true, but there isn’t necessarily any truth behind them. With Anxiety, if you believe your own assumptions, this can and does trigger any anxiety you feel.
Success for everyone who has overcome their anxiety will look and feel very different. Below are general descriptions of what success can look and feel like for you, as it does for others.
If you were to ask most people if they suffered from anxiety, most would say they didn’t. They may admit that they are a bit of a worrier, or things get on top of them sometimes, but to admit that you suffer from anxiety is rare, yet most of us do.
Ever wondered why sometimes you’re just too busy to be anxious, but at other times you can’t shake the anxious, worried feelings away? It’s all to do with distraction.
Anxiety is such a huge term for a lot of specific symptoms and can help you if you think or want to confirm that what you are going through isn’t ‘normal’ and something should be done about it.
The only reason you would pay someone to help you manage your anxiety is because of the promise that it works. The idea is that you pay someone, they do their magic, and after some time you are able to get your life back to normal because anxiety is not the driving force in your life. But as with all things, it will take time.
There is a book called The Magic of Thinking Big, it’s very old but I read it years ago on my self help journey, and from the title you can guess that it’s about thinking big and taking big risks and getting big rewards. That all seems straightforward.
Have you ever been in a situation where your good advice or support fell on deaf ears? The other person made all the right noises but you knew that they weren’t going to implement what you told them and after a while you either thought it must be you, and someone else could get them to change, or you realised that they simply did not really want to change.
There’s long been a debate between nurture and nature and which one has the biggest impact on whom we end up becoming. The idea that nature is your nature and it cannot be changed is compelling. But the idea that it’s all about environment, and it’s nurture that has the last say in whom we can ultimately become, if you are who you are and unchangeable what does that mean for conquering your anxiety?
Ask anyone who has ever been seriously anxious about anything whether they want to react like that, and I can bet that everyone would say that that they didn’t want to and that for reasons known or unknown they reacted like that because they didn’t have any choice.
What goes on in your mind when you react anxiously and yet you want to react differently than that? Do you think that you can’t help it, or it’s just the way you are, or it’s normal and natural to react the way you do because everyone else is the same way?
One of hardest things about anxiety is that it isn’t just confined to you and your reactions, it affects what you do, especially all and every relationship you have. So if you have children, then your anxiety will show in how you treat them, how much patience you have, and ultimately how they should manage their own states as they get older.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the saying, ‘ If you do what you’ve always done, then you’ll get what you’ve always got’ or words to that effect. Hearing this or at least understanding this is supposed to help us all change what we do on a daily basis and get different results. But what if different is just too different and we back off from it? What if secretly we are afraid of different?