Ever wondered why sometimes you’re just too busy to be anxious, but at other times you can’t shake the anxious, worried feelings away?  It’s all to do with distraction.

 

I want you to remember a time when you felt anxious, worried or just down about something, and no matter what you did, at the time that feeling dogged you.  And now remember a time when you were super busy, and didn’t have time to breathe never mind worry, and you just got on with things, but when you got down time, usually in the evening, all those worries flooded back into your conscious awareness.

 

Worries and other negative emotions can only be there if you are thinking the thoughts that create them.  Trouble is, we don’t always know what we are thinking especially if the trigger for how you are feeling now comes from a long standing issue that you’ve gotten so used to that it just becomes part of your life. [Read more…] about Why Distraction Works, and Why We Shouldn’t Always Choose It to Calm Our Anxieties

There is a book called The Magic of Thinking Big, it’s very old but I read it years ago on my self help journey, and from the title you can guess that it’s about thinking big and taking big risks and getting big rewards.  That all seems straightforward.

 

But when my soon to be clients first come across me, they find it hard to put me into a box of where I stand on this coaching or therapy spectrum.  You see I was trained to be a coach but to go deeper, so I don’t spend years naval gazing as they used to call it, like a psychologist might do ( apologies if this offends, but I’m just making a distinction) and I don’t do the counselling head nodding thing either or refrain from giving giving direction, so you can’t quite put me in a box. And so because of this they are never quite sure how what I do works and that leads to hesitation.

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